mereditheo replied to your photo “BF’s mother is in red. The first comment is supposed to read: ”Is that…”
Can I high five Abby?
Ha ha, yes! Abby also accepts payment in the form of cookies and food.
drmellark replied to your post “SO THIS HAPPENED………… bohemianrider replied to your post: So…”
You are a saint for not strangling her by now. Because I would not have as much patience as you in this situation. So sorry you have to deal with this :( <3
Sometimes I think about it. I consider myself a good person, really I do, but sometimes I REALLY REALLY THINK ABOUT DOING IT. Lucky for me, I worked in the sociology field and on a crisis help line for 4 years, so patience is sort of my thing. But even so, sometimes I really just want to take the bait so badly. Ugh.
fairmellarky answered to your photo “BF’s mother is in red. The first comment is supposed to read: ”Is that…”
I really feel like your MIL and my MIL are twins separated at birth. She does the SAME kinds of things. I feel for you, darling.
Oh my god, is yours like this too? Because if so, I feel for you too sweetie! That sucks. *hugs*
bohemianrider replied to your post “SO THIS HAPPENED………… bohemianrider replied to your post: So…”
Relocation. Or her relocation using a Section 5. These are your best options, I think.
Lol, it’s so sad, really, she is actually about 5 minutes away from my parents and we see them once a week at least, and we avoid his mom as much as possible, and only see her if she specifically guilts him into going over there.
everythingbutthemockingjay replied to your post “SO THIS HAPPENED………… bohemianrider replied to your post: So…”
:( Is it possible to consider moving far away from her? At least your BF takes your side … if that were not the case, I would advise you to run far far far far away!! :( :(
Ha ha, no, but we just avoid her anyways. BF’s sister lives over an hour away and that doesn’t stop his mother from harassing the sister all the time anyway.
bohemianrider replied to your photo “BF’s mother is in red. The first comment is supposed to read: ”Is that…”
OMG, that’s horrible. Is she this rude to her son? I’m sorry, Mary.
Yes. I was horrified when I heard some of the things that she has said to her children. The worst part is that she will call them a few days later and pretend like nothing happened. I’m pretty sure she’s mentally ill.
jennagill replied to your photo “BF’s mother is in red. The first comment is supposed to read: ”Is that…”
Wut? She is abominable. This is why I’m scared to be FB friends with my MIL.
Ha ha, I think she’s a special case. In this case, it seems to have worked in my favor, as his cousins saw and were horrified, and called his grandfather. I don’t think she quite understands the whole ‘Facebook = public’ thing.
latinaspitfire replied to your photo “BF’s mother is in red. The first comment is supposed to read: ”Is that…”
You’re a saint.
Ha ha, I don’t feel like one. It took me baking 3 batches of cookies and 2 hour bitching session with the girls just to calm down. And I try really hard not to, but sometimes, I truly, truly hate her.
30smmof2 replied to your photo “BF’s mother is in red. The first comment is supposed to read: ”Is that…”
I’m sorry Mary :( How does BF feel/react to all of this? You don’t have to answer if it’s a sensitive subject…Hugs!
BF is pissed. He always sticks up for me, but his mom is just always been like this. She’s prone to unprovoked attacks and outbursts, and she actively tries to ruin milestones in his life, so I’m not surprised that us getting married has set her off like this, but I wasn’t quite prepared for the severity of this.
writejenwrite replied to your photo “BF’s mother is in red. The first comment is supposed to read: ”Is that…”
YOU’RE BACK ON MY DASH!! Hooray!! :)
Ha ha, trying. We have an auditor at work all this week so I have to actually work (boo) and my weekend is jam-packed, but I hope to be back to a Tumblr schedule soon!
BF’s mother is in red. The first comment is supposed to read: "Is that in your budget???" and is a direct reference to the fact that when we told her about our decision to elope, she insisted that we change the date (which I politely refused), then tried to guilt trip BF in to a wedding(at a date of her choosing, no less!), at which point we explained that a wedding was not in our budget and that this was what we wanted instead.
We offered to compromise and throw a small reception at my parents house at a later date. She then demanded that we pay for her to stay in a hotel in the french quarter since we were “selfish” enough to do this to her, and she didn’t want to travel the day of and that she “wasn’t going to stay in a dump.” I explained again (as firmly as I could while still being polite) that it wasn’t in our budget, and that we were offering her the option of attending if she wanted, as my parents were going to be there. She’s been acting like this ever since.
JFC I’m so sorry. Who thinks that behavior is acceptable!?!?
BF’s mother apparently. She has no boundaries, and no concept of other people’s feelings. It’s like dealing with a bitchy teenager. Like, my facebook wall? What normal adult does this!?!?!?
P.S. My friends are pretty awesome though. They all jumped to my defense before I even knew what was going on.
w h a t.
BF’s mom is not happy about our decision to elope. So far she’s harassed me to the point where I shut off my phone (at which point she started harassing my mother), then went on my Facebook page today and wrote passive-aggressive comments on my last 4 status updates
Oh, and she canceled Christmas at her house and moved it to BF’s sister’s house all the way in Baton Rouge, since she knows I won’t be able to be in both towns at once.
No way! That is awful! I am so sorry :(
Thanks sweetie, lol, all this transpired while I was at work, and I couldn’t really check my facebook (we have an auditor this week), so I get off of work tonight to this fun surprise. But my friends
Yuck. Some people.
Ugh, right? She is horrible. Like, headcanon Peeta’s mom.
Sorry to hear that. :(
Thanks. See above, times 4, lol.
Obviously Santa is somewhere nearby.
It’s only now that he’s been corrupted that I can fully appreciate the real Peeta. Even more than I would’ve if he’d died. The kindness, the steadiness, the warmth that had an unexpected heat behind it….Sometimes when I’m alone, I take the pearl from where it lives in my pocket and try to remember the boy with the bread, the strong arms that warded off nightmares on the train, the kisses in the arena. To make myself put a name to the thing I’ve lost. But what’s the use? It’s gone. He’s gone. Whatever existed between us is gone. All that’s left is my promise to kill Snow. I tell myself this ten times a day.
sponsormusings replied to your post “bohemianrider replied to your photo “BF’s mother is in red. The first…”
Oh dear, just caught up with this :s….Crazy indeed. Sorry you’re going through this, but at least BF is with you on this. xoxo
Yeah, she’s basically trying to ruin my December/Christmas and our wedding in one fell swoop. Ugh. I am so stressed out right now. BF is pretty awesome. It actually makes me sad for BF when I think about the fact that he was raised by that woman.
suppencaspar replied to your photo “BF’s mother is in red. The first comment is supposed to read: ”Is that…”
That woman … I have no words for that monster in law. Hugs to you!
Rike, I hate her. ugh. *hugs back* She’s so mean!
branchan replied to your post “SO THIS HAPPENED………… bohemianrider replied to your post: So…”
Honestly it’s time to cut her out of your lives except for family functions where you can’t avoid her. Thankfully your fiancee’ has your back and will deal with her.
Yeah, that’s basically the plan. We’re going to give her one more shot though. I think when it comes to the day of the wedding, and my brother and parents are there, BF will feel sad if his mom isn’t there, as horrible as she may be, since she’s the only parent he has left.
alonglineofbread replied to your photo “BF’s mother is in red. The first comment is supposed to read: ”Is that…”
wow. i am so, so sorry you’re stuck dealing with all that. not fair in the least. she sounds like a straight up immature bully. how do people like that even make it to adulthood?
I have no idea. She has no friends, though, 2 children that avoid her, and she doesn’t get along with her own siblings. BF’s dad and her had a nasty divorce a few years before Bf’s father died, and her new husband is really weird. He has some sort of short term memory loss thing, so he forgets stuff that has happened, and you can’t really carry a conversation with him, but she talks to him like he’s a dog. It’s really awkward to be around. I can’t even imagine what it must be like to drive all the people that love you away like that.
hutchhitched replied to your post “SO THIS HAPPENED………… bohemianrider replied to your post: So…”
First of all, wow… So sorry. But second, I just keep thinking that we should meet up for a coffee when I’m in NOLA next. (I admit that I’m excited I visit there so often.)
OMG yesss! That sounds awesome! There are so many fun things to do in NOLA too.
mitchesbcray replied to your post “SO THIS HAPPENED………… bohemianrider replied to your post: So…”
you should tell her that you’d be glad to do the big wedding as soon as she provides you two with a blank check for it ;) what a witch.
Ha ha, NOOOOO. That’s why she’s so pissed. BF and I have decided we don’t want a damn thing from her. Not money, not anything. When she ‘gives’ people things she uses it as a means to hang it over their heads or use it as emotional blackmail later on, and we want no part in that.
yourpeetaisshowing replied to your photo “BF’s mother is in red. The first comment is supposed to read: ”Is that…”
That woman is the epitome of a monster-in-law. She also needs to grow up and stop saying that stuff. If she can’t do that, she needs to at least keep it out of public.
She really is. She is stressing me out so much. BF told her that if she keeps acting this, she’s won’t be welcome at the wedding (to which she responded an elopement wasn’t a real wedding, as if that has anything to do with anything), and then gave him some sort of dismissive answer. And she has no sense of boundaries. She has written horrible things about her own daughter on her Facebook wall as well. Sadly, BF and his sister have had to block her at various times before.
mellarksloaves replied to your photo “BF’s mother is in red. The first comment is supposed to read: ”Is that…”
Wow! That is incredibly tactless. How immature of her. High five to your friend Abby for telling her off, though.
Abby is f***ing awesome. There’s a reason she is the only non-family member coming to the elopement with us. I love the hell out of her. But I tend to be nice to everyone and try to keep the peace, so my friends will jump to my defense like attack dogs, lol.
No no no no no!! Mary. I’m so sorry you have to go through this :( Hugs
Thanks sweetie. It had to happen sometime, I guess. I mean, I’m marrying him, and his mother is like this, so you know. But yeah, she’s basically Mrs. Mellark.
swishywillow replied to your photo “BF’s mother is in red. The first comment is supposed to read: ”Is that…”
Aw, friend, I’m so sorry! That’s the worst, it’s so good that you have a friend who stood up for you, although I hope that didn’t just make things worse… :/ ily!
Right? I love her, and not just for that, but that was awesome. What was funny was that the night before (at the girl’s night in question), Abby was telling me to try not to let her bother me, but as soon as she saw those facebook comments, she changed her tune. She was like, “Who the f*** does this b**** think she is talking to you like that????” It’ll be fine.
Nasty comments? What on earth has she been writing? OMG. This is awful. I hope the BF is dealing with this for you because you should never ever have to deal with such shit. Hugs.
Awww, thanks. *hugs back* I would like to go on the record to say that BF always takes my side and does his best to handle her, but she’s just apparently always been emotionally abusive, and I think she hates the idea that she can’t control this situation. She likes to offer help and then hold it over your head so BF and I decided especially that we want NOTHING from her as far as the wedding. Both BF and his sister have had to block her from Facebook before, and there have been stretches of time where BF has ignored her calls and texts for months. Usually I’m the one that helps calm BF and moderate so that he can at least be on speaking terms with her most of the time. BF is PISSED. He told her if she pulls a stunt like this again she won’t be welcome at the wedding. I’m sure that went over like a lead balloon. I linked to some of the comments she made at the top.
Thanks sweetie :-)
Block her from your FB. Ain’t no one got time for BSC.
Lol, it won’t do much good, though. She will still just write things about me in her own status updates, or she will call and text my or BF’s phone incessantly, and she has also shown up at our house before or work. Like, ZERO boundaries. Maybe I’ll just get her a muzzle. Ugh.
WHAT THE FUCK *death glare*
Wifey!! I’m trying so hard not to hate her. But I hate her, OMG. She is a monster. She’s so mean!
Ugh. I just want to give you a hug.
OMG I want my hug. I need a hug so bad right now. Come down here and visit me and BRING ME THAT HUG, PLEASE! Ask Jeniezee, I’m super fun.